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The Bystander Effect – Morgan

Souderton, PA is a town I hold close to my heart as I have performed there for the past eleven years. Each year I visit, I am greeted with an outstanding group of kids who always put forth such a tremendous effort. Many of the students I have worked with there have kept in touch over the years. One such student, is Morgan. She was memorable in the week we spent together and I have enjoyed watching her grow into an amazing young adult through social media. When I reached out to Morgan to give me some feedback about her experience with Bystander, here’s what she had to say:

“When I did Bystander in the 8th grade, it was one of the first theatrical performances I was ever apart of.  Now, I’m a junior in college studying to do theatre as a living. This program impacted my first impression of what it’s like to be apart of a piece of art; a piece of art that sends an extremely important message to an audience to carry throughout their lives. Although bullying takes on different forms, especially as you take on college life, it is still nonetheless very real. Bystander has stuck with me through the years to help me stick up for others.”

Bystander gives students the opportunity to come out of their comfort zone. When I wrote the Bystander script, I had been inspired by one of my Language Arts classes in the middle school  I taught in at the time. While there, I taught a lesson on poetry and the students gathered poems online that had been written by victims of bullying. They had to analyze the poems and then memorize them to recite. We put all the poems together into a theatrical production as a final product for the unit. The piece ended up so powerful, they performed for the school in an assembly and the school board at an evening meeting. What struck me what that I didn’t teach a theater class; I was teaching a random bunch of language arts students who had not chosen to be in a performance class. This was a total cross section of students who connected with what they were doing and were able to convincingly and powerfully present their poems to hundreds of students and teachers. It blew me away. When I do Bystander at a school, I ask the counselors to select a range of students – not just the drama kids or the Student Council. Not just the kids who are used to speaking in front of audiences or performing confidently. I want students who are shy, reserved, not the usual performance suspects so that they can have a moment where they step outside their comfort zone to do something for the greater good. Isn’t that what we are asking the bystanders to do in every situation of bullying? Of course they don’t want to get involved; they are scared to. We are asking them to step outside their normal routine and reach beyond their strengths and confidence to make a difference.

Morgan’s comments are inspiring to me because her experience with Bystander made her realize how powerful it can be to perform something for a live audience; how much of an impact it have have on not only the audience, but the performer. The opportunity she had in Bystander shaped her career path and opened her eyes to a strength she didn’t know she had. By being a part of the Bystander cast, students can come to realizations about their school, their classmates, but most importantly, themselves.

The Bystander Effect – Alyssa

Alyssa was a part of the Bystander program seven years ago. Currently in her second year of college, I was curious to reach out to her to find out if she remembered this program she participated in as an eighth grader and also, what lasting impressions did the program leave. Here’s what she had to say:

“My experience with Bystander is something that has stuck with me since we did it when I was in the 8th grade…I am now in my second year of college. I decided to try out for the project when I saw it done the year before and saw how powerful it was — It made me want to be a part of it. As someone who has been bullied, and have had many friends who were as well, I know how important it is to not be a bystander and to make a difference. It still moves me thinking about it to this day, and it just furthers the importance to me of treating people with respect regardless of what you may think of them. After we did Bystander, people in the school who bullied my friends and I had messaged me and apologized for how they treated me, and that the entire program opened their eyes to how they treat others. I think Bystander is important for every student to experience at some point as it shows the true effect bullying can have on others. It also emphasizes that even if you aren’t the bully, if you don’t do anything you are part of the problem and should stand up for the person who has nobody to stand up for them.”

Alyssa’s words are so valuable in that, having been bullied, she was immediately gratified when, after the performance, those who had bullied her reached out to apologize. One of the messages of Bystander is that it is never too late to apologize. A bully victim remembers when they were bullied clearly, no matter how much time has passed. When the bully offers an apology, even years after the bullying had taken place, the effect is so powerful. Another poignant component of the Bystander program is that it exposes the feelings and emotions related to being a victim of bullying. Audience members finally understand how it feels to be bullied and oftentimes seek out former victims to apologize or offer a positive interaction. I am thankful to Alyssa for sharing her memories with me and for showing others just how the Bystander can impact people long after the performance is over.

The Bystander Effect Series – Part One

For the past eleven years, I have had the privilege to work with some amazing middle school students. They have come into their Bystander week not knowing what to expect, not used to performing in front of large crowds and not knowing how to lead an effective discussion. By the time they are done, they are confident, poised, effective communicators who have impacted hundreds of their peers while effectively changing their own perspectives about the world around them.  I know how effective the program is for the week I work with those performers because I can see in them a change. I was curious, however, to find out if the Bystander program sticks with them as they grow. If the lessons they learn in Bystander continue to shape their lives as they mature and change. I wanted to know that if what they learned during their week working on Bystander did leave a lasting impact on them. Did it change them for the better.

So, I followed up with former Bystander performers with whom I had kept in contact through Facebook or email. I reached out them to find out what they remembered about their week with Bystander. I asked them if they could share their feelings about their experience with Bystander and how Bystander has continued to leave an impact on their lives. The Bystander Effect Series is going to be the responses I received; an effort to clearly illustrate how powerful the Bystander program is and, more importantly, how lasting its message. To create real change, a school assembly program needs to do more than just impact students for one day, one week, one month. A successful assembly program should leave its impression long after.

Teaching Empathy

This article from Parent.co is right on! Don’t miss these teachable moments – they are so important to developing empathy in your child.


Bystander in the News

This is an old article about a performance in East Hanover Middle School, but I just came across it and thought I would share!


Making a Lasting Impact

Today, a former student of mine sent me a like to an article entitled “To The High School Teacher Who Inspired Me.” She was a student of mine over 12 years which I can hardly believe. Although I taught her in middle school, she felt this article still applied:) It is a beautiful article talking about how there is that one teacher who’s class you can’t wait to get to, who always seems to understand, who teaches you more than just the curriculum and who makes you a better, more well rounded person. To think that she thought this of me makes everything I have ever done worthwhile. It is so important to make time to listen to children; to take the focus off of yourself and to really listen and really care what they are trying to say to you. It really is amazing how strongly middle school children are to someone who listens to them and respects what they have to say. In my four years as a teacher and the ten years I have worked in bully prevention,I have learned how easy it is get middle school students to open up. The simple trick: listen.  The icing on top: care. Kids that age have so many things they are trying to sort out, constantly on an every changing basis. Providing them an opportunity to speak and be heard is so powerful. It provides them validation that their feelings and concerns are real and valid.

My heart was warmed upon receiving that email today because I now know that my former student still thinks about the time we had together in her 8th grade year. I know that she realized I cared and still do about her. I know that she was listening to what I was saying and took my words to heart. What more amazing feeling in there than to know you made a difference for someone?

Cyber Bullying Tips for Young Children

Children are younger and younger when they begin to navigate the Internet without parent supervision. In this increasingly dangerous scenario, it is so important for parents to constantly check in with their children and remind them of some valuable Internet safety rules. As part of a project for the educational website, Abcya.com, I created a story called the Cyber Five. The Cyber Five is a list of five, easy to follow guidelines for children regarding Internet usage and safety. Going over these rules will help your child know how to better use the Internet and how to encourage online safety among their peers. Here are the Cyber Five:

  • Never share personal information
  • Don’t download alone
  • Don’t respond to a bully
  • Copy and paste; save it and print
  • If you feel uncomfortable with what you see, tell an adult immediately

Instilling in your children these five simple reminders will keep safer and more aware online.

Raising Kind and Empathetic Children

I recently came across this article about prioritizing empathy as we raise our children. I thought it was spot on about how the current trend is to worry so much about the feelings of your own child that you teach your child that only his/her feelings matter – not the feelings of everyone else around him/her. Raising children with an awareness about how their deeds and actions effect the lives of the people around them is paramount; without that understanding, children will continue to ignore the plights of those around them in regards to bullying. Check out the article below:)


Bystander In The News!

After a recent performance of the Bystander Box program in Pompton Lakes, NJ this article was published in the paper recognizing their bully prevention efforts. Go Pompton Lakes!!


Central Regional Middle School

Performing in the cafeteria as we battle to have our voices heard is always a challenge. This group rose to that challenge and presented a powerful and moving performance! Hopefully, they continue to be great role models in their school and positively impact the lives of the people around them.